My first one was held forever, I slept holding her. I did what I had to do to stuvive.

COME AT ME

@Risky I have a Peg Perego base. If you find out that its compatible with your Graco bucket seat, its yours.

So what was the solution? Just hold the kid for the next 1800 nights???

I've been trying to let the kid cry it out but after 15 minutes, I cave... I'm so weak

Also, women are saints. Watching them care for a kid like a mother does, just amazing for me to witness. I am not capable of providing the care nor do i have the level of patience they do. respek

How bad is the crying? My wife usually sprints the second the kid makes a peep, I am out there ready to put my foot out to trip her on her way...definitely trying to keep her from dropping everything on a dime if kid "needs" us.

As far as crying, how bad are we talking? There are times she will cry even after she is cleaned, fed, burped, etc usually we take her by the range hood (turn it on full) and she calms down within 5 minutes, worst one we had she kept at it for 10 we tried everything and then in the car seat and we went for a drive.

So I've been going out with her since 4 weeks old on my own, especially now at 2 months we hit up the grocery stores, take out places, etc. My wife is absolutely paranoid and won't dare go alone with her anywhere

Tried to convince her it's not a big deal, went to walmart last Friday, kid broke down crying, wife had diaper bag and was in different part of store (trying to do all shopping in tandem - dat efficiency) and she fucking lost it by the electronics section. I had no pacifier, no food, nothing, just a fucked up kid and my wife wasn't answering because phone was on silent. That was great, after she found us, she started crying too now I had two babies going at it. All I wanted was to find a fucking light bulb for my bathroom and enjoy my coffee.

How bad is the crying? My wife usually sprints the second the kid makes a peep, I am out there ready to put my foot out to trip her on her way...definitely trying to keep her from dropping everything on a dime if kid "needs" us.

Tried to convince her it's not a big deal, went to walmart last Friday, kid broke down crying, wife had diaper bag and was in different part of store (trying to do all shopping in tandem - dat efficiency) and she fucking lost it by the electronics section. I had no pacifier, no food, nothing, just a fucked up kid and my wife wasn't answering because phone was on silent. That was great, after she found us, she started crying too now I had two babies going at it. All I wanted was to find a fucking light bulb for my bathroom and enjoy my coffee.

How bad is the crying? My wife usually sprints the second the kid makes a peep, I am out there ready to put my foot out to trip her on her way...definitely trying to keep her from dropping everything on a dime if kid "needs" us.

As far as crying, how bad are we talking? There are times she will cry even after she is cleaned, fed, burped, etc usually we take her by the range hood (turn it on full) and she calms down within 5 minutes, worst one we had she kept at it for 10 we tried everything and then in the car seat and we went for a drive.

So I've been going out with her since 4 weeks old on my own, especially now at 2 months we hit up the grocery stores, take out places, etc. My wife is absolutely paranoid and won't dare go alone with her anywhere

Tried to convince her it's not a big deal, went to walmart last Friday, kid broke down crying, wife had diaper bag and was in different part of store (trying to do all shopping in tandem - dat efficiency) and she fucking lost it by the electronics section. I had no pacifier, no food, nothing, just a fucked up kid and my wife wasn't answering because phone was on silent. That was great, after she found us, she started crying too now I had two babies going at it. All I wanted was to find a fucking light bulb for my bathroom and enjoy my coffee.

What you're going through is so typical of first-time parents. We were paranoid with stuff with the first kid. Once the second rolls around, you're too tired to give a fuck. Drop the pacifier on the floor? First kid, go and sterilize it before giving it back. Second kid, wipe it with your hand and stick it back in his mouth. LOL...

Just roll with it for now. You guys are starting to find what works.

How bad is the crying? My wife usually sprints the second the kid makes a peep, I am out there ready to put my foot out to trip her on her way...definitely trying to keep her from dropping everything on a dime if kid "needs" us.

As far as crying, how bad are we talking? There are times she will cry even after she is cleaned, fed, burped, etc usually we take her by the range hood (turn it on full) and she calms down within 5 minutes, worst one we had she kept at it for 10 we tried everything and then in the car seat and we went for a drive.

So I've been going out with her since 4 weeks old on my own, especially now at 2 months we hit up the grocery stores, take out places, etc. My wife is absolutely paranoid and won't dare go alone with her anywhere

Tried to convince her it's not a big deal, went to walmart last Friday, kid broke down crying, wife had diaper bag and was in different part of store (trying to do all shopping in tandem - dat efficiency) and she fucking lost it by the electronics section. I had no pacifier, no food, nothing, just a fucked up kid and my wife wasn't answering because phone was on silent. That was great, after she found us, she started crying too now I had two babies going at it. All I wanted was to find a fucking light bulb for my bathroom and enjoy my coffee.

crying like that for her, it's most likely still gas but the one she needs to fart out (since she already burped). if not then she needs to sleep (will wipe her face/eyes on you). lol range hood we use alllllll the time, any white noise helps them knock out - no harm in that. mind you some babies are just more prone to colic than others....pray she isn't one lol. buy some GRIPE WATER and see if it helps, usually it does. also try holding her like a football (tummy on forearm, support chin with fingers/thumbs) and she will fart it out. another option is this dudes which does work - http://www.today.com/parents/pediatrician-shows-how-calm-your-baby-seconds-hold-t59466

t's normal she will wanna tend to the baby so fast and often, every kid (and parent) is different, my wife did the same thing. ppl will say "oh let them cry it out" and shit...i find that SOMEWHAT works when they're a bit older...6mnths, 9mnths or even later imo, basically when they can self soothe. eventually we took on the approach of the kid is a baby only once and NOT for long so it's not a big deal to tend to it (u don't want them to stressed) and the crying is heartbreaking. our first didn't sleep thru the night until 14 months ftl....eventually it was "running in" to calm him before he went into full cry/awake mode lol.

Follow up question - when did you guys introduce a soother into the mix?



This hold worked for me for the first 2-3 weeks... it's quite astonishing LOL

I wouldn't have been able to keep my sanity if I had to deal with a kid still waking up for that long. According to the paediatrician, a kid should have no problem sleeping through the night once they hit 15 lbs. we sleep trained our kids at around 9 months. It was really tough with the first. He cried for an hour the first day, but he was good after 3-4 days and went to sleep on his own. Our second one was easier, but I was also less sensitive to his crying. Lol

lol so true. and yeah with second now we're popping him into the first guy's crib at 4/5 months, shutting the door and that's it. she and/or i will wake up for bad crying of course but as time passes, he's on his damn own so soothe himself to sleep lol.